3/24/2025

I read a blog about a framework for letting it go (whatever “it” is).  I hope it’s helpful to you.

1.  Feel it fully.  Name the emotion:  “I am feeling ____.”  But be careful not to project it onto someone else.

2.  Rest.  Give yourself space to pause.

3.  Process the emotion.  Write, cry, talk it out, move, listen to music that resonates.  Clean your space, nourish your body—anything that helps release it.

4.  Gain perspective.  Once the intensity fades, reflect.  What did this teach you about your needs?

5.  Own your role.  If it’s a random event, great—let it go.  If it’s a pattern, notice it until you’re ready to grow.  Being human is really hard.

6.  Acknowledge your humanity.  Embrace every imperfect part of you.

7.  Acknowledge their humanity.  The person who hurt you is playing out their own story.  What they did was about them, not you.

8.  Forgive yourself.

9.  Forgive others.

10.  Seek forgiveness—internally or directly.  Ask for forgiveness, even if only in your mind.

11.  Reclaim your power.  Where have you given away your story—to societal expectations, family, friends, or the person who hurt you?  Take back control of your life.

12.  Rewrite your story. “I was ____, but now I am ____, and I’m grateful for the change.”

13.  Repeat as needed.  Start again whenever new realizations emerge.

-Michael